S.O.S. Please someone help me!
M: To what extent in lending a hand, helping out, going out of your way....... can anyone go for another. It feels good to help someone out. In my experiences its been pretty rewarding. Ive met new friends, made a cool contacts towards something i was looking for or been given with some money or got like discounts on car parts, cell phones,guitars etc. Helping out someone doesn't necessarily mean you should always be compensated for your voluntary works. even though now you might be thinking that "isn't that the same thing as my job M?". well Bolsa de douche technically yes....but, were talking about the random person that's stuck on the road while you rubberneck pass their way thinking "oh........well, that's a shame" conversation. One feels better knowing that they have made a difference in that persons life be it big or small. We're not all saints or superheroes that i understand. Our routine "ant" working lives consist of coffee breaks, spreadsheets, boxes, meetings,paper cuts, electronic software & hardware malfunctions with manual brain wrecking troubleshooting and slow moving time. which still troubles me a little......like when you look at those big analog clocks and you see that the little hand is moving backwards twice and one time forward. or when you feel you've been there FOREVER but, when you check the time on your PC or whatever its only been 2 minutes since you started working....................DAMMMIT!!!! PORQUE DIOS!!!. To be honest fellow reader....i kinda went off track a little ............so um?.............wait for it.................pause..............ahem......Putting all the good Samaritan stuff aside HOW FAR CAN ONE GO? DAMN.... M IS THERE A LIMIT? not for random people but for our friends.there has been best friends that i have helped out in many ways. for example you need to pick up something from B.F.E. somewhere cause its crucial,or you need some money now cause you forgot your wallet, or the ever classic last minute favor (that you know they had ALL THE E'FIN time to tell you but, to be a hueco de ass... asked you when you're right by exit of the room,building,apt., whatever) .theres no limit towards how much you can help a friend if your that tizzzight. also some circumstances can occur that you can't help out when a friend is in need.........but sometimes repetitious ANNOYING actions cause a tall drink of anger with a cinch of boredom mixed with WTF? juice can be
ingested.So, Maybe there's a certain distance one can go for a friend. and in my opinion yes there is a limit towards how much help you can help a friend if that friend can take care of himself or herself......that's when i get angry and say........GROW UP.....some things we sometimes need help doing...others is just a baby asking to be carried .....
C: Is there a limit to how much you'll do to help out a friend or relative? I have been on both sides of this situation.. At the moment I'm the one who needs help, when before I was the one able to offer it more abundantly. I'm speaking specifically about financial help now, which seems like the kind of help with the most constraints attached to it. People are funny about money, they'll drive you to the ends of the world, they'll stay up all night with you to help you finish some project for school, they'll wait in line for hours with you for some game you really want, they will watch movies they hate a second time for you... but the moment money gets into the mix people seem less likely to put their hands out to boost you up. I get it, people have bills, obligations, lives to maintain. Money makes all these things possible so its only human nature to be so guarded about it. When I had more money to play with I can't say that I was ever the stingy type.. I would buy rounds for my friends, treat them to lunch, I always chipped in for bottles or food or whatever when there was a getty or a party happening. I guess I never really placed too much value on the green rectangular pieces of paper that keep our lives flowing. I would go out of my way for my friends if they need my help. There are two reasons, however, that I would choose to withhold my help to people... 1. They're not trying to help themselves. It's one thing to help your friend out cause they messed up and they are in over their head. But its quite another to maintain a bad habit of theirs, not cool. And 2. They have put themselves in a situation that they knew was bad going in and they need to learn their lesson. You can't expect your friends to take the place of common sense, yes they have your back but that doesn't mean that you can make wreckless decisions and expect them to bail you out every time you have a whim of stupidity. I realize that putting a limit on 'help' seems odd.. but I wouldn't want to take my friends for granted and make them feel like they're only there to clean up my messes. There is, after all, a VERY fine line between asking for help and taking advantage of people. My friends know that they can come to me whenever and I'm always here to listen, and help out if it is in my capacity to do so. But in my opinion, yes, there are limits.
ingested.So, Maybe there's a certain distance one can go for a friend. and in my opinion yes there is a limit towards how much help you can help a friend if that friend can take care of himself or herself......that's when i get angry and say........GROW UP.....some things we sometimes need help doing...others is just a baby asking to be carried .....
C: Is there a limit to how much you'll do to help out a friend or relative? I have been on both sides of this situation.. At the moment I'm the one who needs help, when before I was the one able to offer it more abundantly. I'm speaking specifically about financial help now, which seems like the kind of help with the most constraints attached to it. People are funny about money, they'll drive you to the ends of the world, they'll stay up all night with you to help you finish some project for school, they'll wait in line for hours with you for some game you really want, they will watch movies they hate a second time for you... but the moment money gets into the mix people seem less likely to put their hands out to boost you up. I get it, people have bills, obligations, lives to maintain. Money makes all these things possible so its only human nature to be so guarded about it. When I had more money to play with I can't say that I was ever the stingy type.. I would buy rounds for my friends, treat them to lunch, I always chipped in for bottles or food or whatever when there was a getty or a party happening. I guess I never really placed too much value on the green rectangular pieces of paper that keep our lives flowing. I would go out of my way for my friends if they need my help. There are two reasons, however, that I would choose to withhold my help to people... 1. They're not trying to help themselves. It's one thing to help your friend out cause they messed up and they are in over their head. But its quite another to maintain a bad habit of theirs, not cool. And 2. They have put themselves in a situation that they knew was bad going in and they need to learn their lesson. You can't expect your friends to take the place of common sense, yes they have your back but that doesn't mean that you can make wreckless decisions and expect them to bail you out every time you have a whim of stupidity. I realize that putting a limit on 'help' seems odd.. but I wouldn't want to take my friends for granted and make them feel like they're only there to clean up my messes. There is, after all, a VERY fine line between asking for help and taking advantage of people. My friends know that they can come to me whenever and I'm always here to listen, and help out if it is in my capacity to do so. But in my opinion, yes, there are limits.
posted by MarklaR at
10:29 AM
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My assistance is limited to people who need it. If someone asks me for help but they don't really need it (like the assholes that call my job thinking that I'm information and get pissed when I don't have the info. they're looking for) then I'm gona have to say "HELL NO!" lol but if somebody does need it (even if they screwed up after I said from the beginning "that doesn't sound like a good idea") I'm still there to help.. as long as they, at least, learn from it.
-Jiggidy
C: Jig, you kinda went off topic with your comment. Its about the limits you put for your friends and family.. who gives a rats asshole about strangers.
that goes for friends and strangers.
-Jiggidy
SOS? <------- isn't that the stuff you put on pasta?
Well, there are many different kinds of people in this world, and some need more than others. Some you should pull, some you should push and some you shouldn’t waste your time with because they are leaches. In every sense of the word! Sometimes when you are down either financially or emotionally, there are some people who will try to shake you up and out and others will just push you down even further. The ones who push you donw are the those who’s self worth is so low the only way they feel normal if when somebody is going through a bad stage in their lives and you know they will try to keep there so they can feel better about themselves. You need to make a decision on who is worth your time and efforts and who you need to discard and move on to bigger and better things. What determines our eagerness to help a person in need should be equivalent to how much they need, that we can provide without loosing ones self in the process.
Although we have been told (or at least I have) tis better to give then to receive. However in my life I have always tried to hold back, especially when friendship is involved. I only give totally to the ones whom I truly love ei my family. I guess this is why I don’t have many friends. I have realized that friends come and go from our lives. Because they where there when we were too drunk to drive home, or when we ran out of gas, does not mean that this person will be in our lives forever. We all move on, it is the natural order of things. So why give it all, why sacrifice everything for a person who will only be a fleeting moment in our lives. Who only will be a good friend until that cooler person appears in their lives and suddenly they don’t have time for you. The little quirks that attracted this relationship are all of a sudden irritating. NO I SAY! Hold a little back!
C: I agree with you in terms of giving your all. I think thats only something you do once (unless you somehow never get burned by anyone) and then you move in very calculating steps to swiftly skirt around the land mines. What sucks about being burned by one relationship is that the ones to bear the brunt of it are future relationships.
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